Find your way out of the stuck place.
Couples Therapy Online and In-Person.
Often we enter relationships with high hopes.
We look forward to connecting deeply with another human, we want to know this person’s got our back no matter what, and we anticipate enjoying shared values and goals in life.
Limited options:
When relationships go sideways like this (and most do at some point), you may find yourself considering three possible explanations: either I’m messed up, my partner is messed up, or our relationship is messed up. This is when many of my clients wonder, “Can I keep going?” “Are we just a bad match, bringing out the worst in each other?” “Am I the only one who cares about the relationship?”
It’s devastating to find yourself in a relationship marked by the opposite:
Constant criticism from your partner leading to the sense that despite your best intentions, you can’t “get it right” with them.
Emotional withdrawal from your partner. The more you try to connect and repair the disconnection, the more your partner pulls away, maybe avoiding you or the hard conversation altogether.
Betrayal. Whether this this sense comes from an affair or a damaging moment when you (or your partner) feel your trust and vulnerability is no longer safe, these are moments where ongoing stress can spiral into a crisis of intense pain for you both.
I'd love to help!
Helping you work through relational pain is my thing.
In our work together, I will use my training and experience in relational therapy to help you see yourself, your loved one, and the relationship through a more hopeful lens. This lens is grounded in attachment science and has become the gold standard for relational therapy that stands the test of time. I’ll help you be gentler towards yourself and those you love, while still remaining direct and honest about what is hurtful and needs to change.
My Style…
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Kind
None of us can let down our guard or access our creative selves when we feel attacked or misunderstood. I work hard to honor the complexity of who you are as human, especially in your moments of vulnerability, such as when you’re exploring something you’re not proud of.
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Directive
I often jump in to sessions to help you slow down, to notice a relational pattern, or to interrupt an interaction that is hurting either of you. This can feel relieving, but also takes a bit of getting used to if you’re more accustomed to a therapist listening and observing only.
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Experiential
As opposed to a cognitive approach in which I give advice and send you out to practice it, I instead help you clarify what’s going on and then communicate effectively about it — live time! We practice a new way of interacting, then we process it, until you can to do it outside of session without my help.
Reach out and let’s give your relationship a fighting chance.
When possible, I prefer in-person sessions with couples in my comfy office in North Cambridge! But I also offer virtual therapy when in-person isn’t feasible.